WHEN YOU ARE HAPPY AND YOU KNOW

Remember the song we were taught in nursery school? I still value it. Today I understand that if I am unhappy, I will never be able to spread cheer, good vibes and do stuff to make others feel good or happy. In my mind, subconsciously, I will seek more unhappiness; I would enjoy seeing other people unhappy. In fact, I will channelise all my energy wishing misery for people around me. As a result, I am left with very little positive energy to move forward.

Is this what we are seeking from life? Not at all. You may tell me that you have faced difficult times, so how can you be happy? Agree. My question is “For how long do you want to be affected by the situation and be unhappy?” When my father expired, my mom was saddened and unhappy with life in general. We gave her the time required for natural healing. Then gradually encouraged her to get engaged with activities that she liked. She also realised that continuing to be morose and unhappy is not the solution; she has to move ahead. Today her life is filled with activities and she is independent, and it is two decades of my father’s demise.

There are other people who will work on their feeling of being deprived or not getting external validation. Energy is channelised towards low spirits. To be honest, we do not like spending much time in the company of such sad souls.

Is it possible to find rays of positivity amidst gloomy scenario? Yes, if you wish. Difficult but not impossible. Take one step at a time and identify what you have despite the difficult times. Take stock of your assets and resources (both physical and human). Ask for help, if needed. You may not become happy and cheerful overnight. But you will be able to prevent the downhill slide. Associate with people who value you. The moment you stop being morose, you will attract positivity. And we all like to be associated with such people.

And then when you are happy and you know it, you will be able to share happiness and encourage happiness. If you are not happy, you will not be able to make others happy. Neither will you be able to receive happiness. I will leave you with the following quote.

“The more I expect, the more unhappy I am going to be. The more I accept, the more serene I am.”                    Michael J. Fox